Sometimes, reading Christian forums is like reading the book of Job. Someone speaks in good faith out of their experience, and then the self-righteous, the misguided and the wrong descend like vultures to nitpick, accuse and wave their sanctimonious discoveries around as if they alone have perceived wisdom that none other in history has. Through it, God is misrepresented and the hurting soul is dragged into an argument defending himself against a pack of wolves. In the end it is the wounded brother God will defend and the accusers God will accuse.
God, please grant me the grace to respond with love to my sister or brother when he is injured, to embrace them in silence for as long as I can -and when your Spirit speaks may He speak through me that I may then share words of life with them.